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November 20: TAILS – Never Say Never (What is something you thought you’d never do or say, but now you do?)

Hmmmm…..Well this could be another six part post. But I will try and condense it into a simple HorT entry. My oldest daughter (who reads this blog daily and suggested this story) is bi-polar. I didn’t know that for the longest time. Long story, as short as is possible, she was diagnosed with depression at the age of 8. Continued problems, yada, yada. Possible OCD diagnosis, possible ADD, possible who-the-f*ckknows. There was no decent psychiatric care in UT those days. At any rate, my point is, she had some issues. Not quite the regular teenage issues, but a little more serious. Bi-polar disorder’s number one characterization is making bad/risk taking decision. So on top of all the issues most 12 year olds go through, she also was bi-polar and made decisions that we did not always agree with.

She gets into a relationship, which I freely admit, I was okay with at first. She had been so isolated and lonely and I was happy she found someone she could relate to. Unfortunately, it was a boy and it progressed way further than any parent would have liked. Let us just say there is activity that was “inappropriate” to her parentals. Lots of other stuff in between, but ground zero equals: We get job offer out of state. We discuss with counseling. They say could be way to get child out of uncomfortable situation, but don’t tell her. We plan move and tell child minimum info. Child sneaks out of house. Mom knows. Most of the family moves, except Mom and child, but Mom feels something bad is going to go down. Child skips school. Mom has “instinct” moment and calls school. Finds child within 20 minutes. Puts child in car for drive 900 miles away where balance of family is waiting. Child has ‘attitude. Mom gets annoyed after about 700 miles and loses temper and then states, “You will never see that boy again. Ever.”

Fast forward many more years of parental insanity and one more inpatient visit for child. She survives. She graduates. She falls in love. Twice. She attends junior college. She gets a job. She decides to attend a college back in UT where she left 5 years ago, living with her Grama.

Fast, fast forward. Never, ever, say never.

I am the lucky, blessed grandma of two. They belong to the above mentioned child AND the above mentioned boy. They are happily married for three years, with two beautiful children. Who knew.

But, would I change anything? No. It is what it is. Maybe it would not be, if I hadn’t been the parent I was. Who knows? I did the best I am able.

 

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16 Comments

  1. you sure did a good job making me sound nuts!

  2. macdougal

    haha, nanny’s nuts!

  3. Bi-polar is much more serious than a lot of people think.. maybe because the word “depression” is tossed around so freely these days. Having lived through some of what your daughter did, I know how hard it was to find good help back in the stone age.

    I’m glad things turned out so well for her!!! Give her and the your grandbabies a hug for me. 🙂

  4. This is awesome of you to share this, and awesome that you wouldn’t change anything.

  5. tegdirb92

    wow, that is so cool that your daughter reads the blog each day–a great way to connect!! I am so glad things turned out. Have a wonderful Tuesday.

  6. I’m so happy for your daughter, and for you, too!

  7. Wow. What a moving story. I’m glad you’re daughter found happiness after all the difficulties.
    Happy Tuesday! 🙂

  8. marmagoo

    I was the best sneaker outer ever and I turned out ok :).

    Its amazing how things turn out sometimes.

  9. All I can say is – Wow! I’ve got goosebumps! What an amazing story, and I am so glad that everything turned out so wonderfully.

  10. That is truly an amazing story. You just never know, do you?

  11. Sounds like you did what was necessary at the time…glad it all worked out in the end though! 🙂

  12. Very powerful…thank you for visiting my blog today. I don’t know what to say about your post….it struck a chord in me, is that enough?

  13. That sounds like a sweet story – I’d actually like to hear it told from her point of view 😉
    And to be honest, if they hadn’t been split up, chances are their relationship would’ve ended on its own within those 5 years because kids are young and dumb :-0

  14. kitkat5505

    What a great story, very interesting 🙂

  15. She’s not nuts, she was in love with the boy! Vixen, I like all the stories about your family.

    I love them also. I probably could write a book. At least that is what people tell me, but MacD is allowed to call her crazy because he got to live with her 4ever, lol. Sibling love. Thanks WM now I have a “song” stuck in me head….”she’s in love with the boy”.

  16. smarmoofus

    What a wonderfully happy outcome after that tumultuous background. Way to go mom and daughter!

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