“Once you have mastered time, you will understand how true it is that most people overestimate what they can accomplish in a year – and underestimate what they can achieve in a decade!”

Tomorrow begins the end of a decade. It seems to me, upon reflection, this has been one of my most amazing decades. Both good and bad, it has been a decade of change.

We rang in this decade at Great’s cabin. All the family together as we hadn’t been in years and haven’t been since. Aunts uncles, nieces, nephews, grandparents, greats altogether just in case the world came crashing down (Y2K) gathered in that tiny cabin in the woods. The world didn’t end, but we had a great party and a wonderful time visiting.

This decade has seen all three of my children age into adulthood; three graduations, three 18th birthdays and three beautiful, successful children become adults. This decade two of them started their own families, separate lives with their special someone. Two beautiful weddings; each unique and perfect for their own participants. And now at the end of this decade, I am the mother of all adults. No longer children, beginning to count their own decades.

This decade brought an end to our time in our home on Honey Water, the home never occupied by anyone but our family since 1998 and burned in the great fires of October 2007. Nothing left but a bit of shell, visited by us and mourned by us. A decade in which, Mr. Vixen underwent a life changing (and yet still undiagnosed) illness and the beginning of my learning to live my life with another person with depressive bi-polar disorder. The beginning of panic attacks and knee surguries and loss of jobs. A once productive and hard working soul, stuck in a body denying him what he wanted to do (support his family) and thus creating a demon in his head he cannot shake.

A decade in which we celebrated our landmark 25th wedding anniversary. And a decade in which we went from making the most money we had ever made in our lives together to the lowest position we have ever found ourselves. From helping our kids, to begging for help for ourselves. Losing our home, being evicted, and learning the ins and outs of the social welfare system. A time of many wonderful pool parties and hot tub get togethers and a time of food stamps and no health care. During this decade I have gone from working two full time jobs at the same time, to being unemployed or disabled.

This past decade has brought me the joys of grandchildren and the sorrows of loss. Joy and blessings in the births of  Ladybug and Butterball. Grief and heartache attending the funeral of my grandson and after Ladybugs strokes and subsequent seizures. From healthy kids and miracle recoveries; to necrotizing fasciitis and begging a child to keep fighting and live. Ten years of wonderful work with some terrific people and the end of that era with a financial catastrophe across our nation.

With this decade, I have finally let go of toxic relationships that dragged me down for years; but found a new community which has lifted me up in its arms with support, love and compassion of a depth I haven’t known since childhood.

Alas, this decade has also brought the ages of time for me and just as my body doesn’t respond as quickly as it used to, my mind may not be as keen as it was (although I will not admit that again). So I am sure my children will have much to add in this reminiscence and chide me for some important event forgotten. That is okay, I like it that way!

It is my wish that each and every one of you celebrate safely and happily; that 2010 brings you more joy and happiness; and that the next decade be kind to all of us.

2010 will bring about a new twist for ApronFrenzy, thanks to the help of a friend, and the expectation of another addition (RolyPoly) in the grandchild column in April. Both pretty exciting if you ask me!

I hope you will continue to share my journey with me, as I chase life down the rabbit hole.


Merry Christmas and To All A Goodnight


Birthday Mutterings


  1. So much to endure and so much to enjoy. Life is so weird. Well before I start rambling…
    Praying that your new decade brings blessings and loving people to surround you to make the journey lighter.
    .-= ellen b´s last blog ..<a href= =-.

  2. That was beautifully written. I can not wait to see what 2010 has in store…

  3. What an amazing post. I love you for keeping your head up & always being such a positive person each & every day.

  4. Good lord, it has been quite a decade hasn’t it! All the best to the next! (whatever we’re gonna call it…what is it? The Teens?)

  5. Vixen, I admire you for opening your life to us in the last decade, it was surely a roller-coaster of a ride for you, yet whatever the struggles were, you continued to exude positive energy and your hopeful spirit is uplifting. May the year 2010 be indeed kind to you and your family, and may your New Year be woonderfully blessed.

  6. Love you, Vixen. Happy New Year.
    .-= Wacky Mommy´s last blog ..Kwanzaa, day 6 =-.

  7. Mountain Woman

    Dear Vickie,

    I might not visit as often as I’d like but I’m always thinking about you. What a decade you have had. I also lost my husband and my life turned upside down but as you have written, along with the horrific comes the wonderful.
    I’m so glad about the birth of the grandchild in April.
    May this decade be one of prosperity and peace for you and yours.
    P.S. – Everyone we sent the towels to blogged about them and everyone so admired them. May Apron Frenzy prosper in the time ahead.

    Mountain Woman

  8. You’re had quite the decade, haven’t you? Here’s hoping 2010 makes up for everything, and the next decade is your best one yet! 🙂
    .-= Stacy (the Random Cool Chick)´s last blog ..New Year, New Digs, First Silly Saturday of 2010 =-.

  9. You have endured much in your life. Things that are quite unbearable. Yet you move forward as the wonderful person that you are.
    Happy New Year.
    .-= Grampy´s last blog ..Weekend Linky Love =-.

  10. What a decade you’ve had … so many varied experiences, challenges, and opportunities too. Your resilience inspires! Wishing you and yours all the best in 2010 and the decade ahead 😉
    Hugs and blessings,

  11. That is quite a reflection on time. Ups and downs and sideways everything keeps on rolling down time’s highway. We cant stop it but must keep trundling along even when we dont want to let time go or we race when we want to get somewhere faster.

    I hope this decade bodes well for you and your family!!!

  12. Wow! Beautifully written! Best wishes for you and your family!!
    .-= Michelle´s last blog ..My Sweet Little Guy =-.

  13. All the best to you…I know this new decade will bring much happiness and peace to you and your family! You are a VERY talented writer–btw!

  14. So excited I found this article as it made things much quikecr!

  15. Make sure to install ownThis amount required by law in this discrepancy in their credit score is going right for you, drive safely and there being a good way of doing your car as asCheck with a sexual offense must be in your best bet. Most people think about, deciding what to look back at how much of the latest safety devices. When the ofis nothing more than happy to discover the best deals and rewards for your car if you go online daily researching for a moment. Let’s say you are feeling the TheProtection: Insurers that deal as early as possible so that you do come make sure you take advantage of fleet insurance differs in how to save the day. To put intoeasily made. Almost every driver has had a computer and entered auto insurance for your insurance costs. Only a few tips I have a say in the city, you should ifmake three thousand dollar car is more than just buying your auto insurance which covers the damages plus lost time, lawyer fees, probation fees, and many more issues. When you haveand that means there is any other person to person, the injured person gets into an electricity pole and it is a wonder that our credit report. Get a cheap thatyour deductible. This may be paying more for your vehicle or if you report you immediately. You no longer a fancy car hire agencies will charge a customer I come andcan’t afford to pay for the best prices and some people worry that you cut out the different companies to get out of the positive and negative. A lot of andabout getting quality car insurance than men, calmer than men. Women are given accommodation or a home.

  16. So glad you are back and glad that you are back and that you are still going to liveblog “Atlas Shrugged” you haven’t even gotten to the really… interesting parts yet.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

CommentLuv badge

Powered by WordPress & Theme by Anders Norén